One of the capacities of human consciousness is reflexivity, the ability to look at ourselves. Everyone has a relationship with him/herself. What's yours like? Many have a poor self-relationship characterised by negative self-talk and excessive self-criticism. Some even hate themselves for who they are, or for what they have done. In my own psychological research and practice I have seen many examples of what I call the 'Anti-Self' strategy, and it never works. What does, is the decision to reach out to oneself in friendship (If you really are so bad, then you really do need a friend to help you!) If this idea is new to you, start acting friendly to yourself today. Change how you speak to yourself internally. I'm not suggesting that you 'whitewash' your failures or wrongdoing for it's good to recognise and deal with these, but I certainly urge you to become a loving and supportive coach to yourself, a constant friend who always encourages you to think and do what is right. Think good!